My wife and I have been married for 21 years and together for 25 years. Our oldest kid is 12 so we had lots of years together just the two of us. After kids life can get busy – real busy. You think that you are out of the woods when they start sleeping through the night but there’s always something to compete for your attention. The next thing you know years have gone by and you think “what the heck happened to all that time!?”
A few months ago a dear family friend pointed out to me that my wife and I might be more roommates than lovers (ok I added the lover part). I rejected the idea at first and was a little mad at the accusation if I am honest. But, I thought about it for a few days and realized she was right. It is SO easy to take things for granted and we both had done that.
There are a hundred things that I COULD do as husband to move the dial – flowers, cards, spoken words, etc. What I chose to do though was schedule a date night. I couldn’t think of the last time we have went out just the two of us and it seemed like a nice step in the right direction.
Funny enough, I told the friend that made this observation that she was on babysitting duty for this date night that was all her fault. lol She was thrilled to do it.
As with any couple we struggle with the “what do you want to eat?” ….. “I don’t know, what do you want” problem. So, I decided that I would just pick a place myself and that’s where we would go. She asked where we were going that night and I wouldn’t even tell her. I said “you will find out when we get there” haha.
I picked a place called Shokitini which is a Sushi place we had actually been to before. It was delicious!
After dinner, we googled and found a massage place that’s open late that does foot massages. We laughed because when we got there, the windows were dark and inside they had lots of cameras everywhere. We felt like it might be “that kind of place” but keep going back lol.
It was a great time and was wonderful to have a couple hours alone with the mother of my children and the love of my life! This will continue!